I created this article to talk about the importance of two essential elements of our life: money, and love. In my opinion, it is necessary to be able to develop both aspects to have a satisfying life experience.
The question is: why am I linking these two topics into the same article? Because they are incredibly connected and correlated: the more you develop your power of love, the more you can earn money; the more money you make, the more help (= a form of love) you can give to people, and so on.
I created the term LoveMoney because I wanted to demystify this forced negative correlation between money and love… It is not necessarily true that the more money you have, the harder it is for you to find true love (because you create relationships with people only out of material interest). On the contrary, the more money you have, the more you can give, and the more you can give, the more you will receive. Is not it all a whole magnificent way of exchanging love?
Money is energy, and love is energy too. They are merely two different forms of energy, that can both be used either positively or negatively. It is up to you how you will use these energies.
I am going to talk about some essential elements that will strongly influence your ability to be prone to LoveMoney.
LoveMoney is the positive correlation between money and love. This bond represents one of the most potent creations of all time, as capable of transformational results. Your life, other people’s lives, and a whole culture are just examples of potential entities that can benefit from this powerful LoveMoney connection.
Love versus Worry
The LoveMoney mindset does not allow negative emotions to influence your thinking, as things like worrying, negativity, and limitations can strongly or completely diminish your potentials. This concept applies even if the importance of worrying and being alert is a fundamental function to survive in our present and past society (hopefully not a future society too).
EVEN IF WE ARE ALL WIRED FOR NEGATIVITY, WE ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO WORRY ALL THE TIME!
We need and want to protect us from failure because failure is horrible for our brain. Limiting beliefs cushion us against failure.
Examples of limiting beliefs include:
- I could have
- I should have
- I would have
- If only I had
- If only my father
- If only …
You can only fail in life by failing to try. So, if you try to change your mind by trying, you cannot fail 🙂
What is the most common limiting belief of all time? I might get rejected.
It is the most common limiting belief because several people “died” from rejection, but if you install it in your mind, you will not “die” from rejection!
For example, the author of Harry Potter got rejected many and many times, but since her mindset was to be successful, and that people were going to like her book, she kept trying until she made it!!
What is the lesson from the Harry Potter author?
YOU HAVE TO BOUNCE BACK FROM REJECTION.
WE ALL NEED TO DEVELOP THE BOUNCE BACK MINDSET.
THE MOST SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE WERE REJECTED MULTIPLE TIMES!!!
YOU CANNOT BE REJECTED UNLESS YOU ALLOW IT!
When someone rejects you, you should say to yourself: your opinion is one opinion in an ocean of opinions. I am going to find someone who gives me the opinion I want.
When people say no to you, that no represents just a delay before the next person who will say yes 🙂
One of the most important factors that strongly influence your inclination towards creating limiting beliefs is your position in your family.
What is your position in your family? Are you the last child of your family? If you are, your opinion does not matter to the family, no one listens to you as you are not grown/important enough (in the first part of your life, which is when you create your subconscious limiting beliefs).
This is the reason why, in life, you will always be caring too much about others, and not taking care of yourself, because you put everyone else first as you do not want to hurt other people’s feelings.
Maybe you are the only child of a single parent, and perhaps you look after your mother, and you have the same limiting belief too: “I need to help other people out, that is not enough, something needs to be given, you cannot have everything”.
Maybe you have a successful father, and you have another limiting belief: “when you work all the time, your family suffers, or yourself suffer”.
Maybe you are the middle child, and you did not feel significant, and you still have a belief that says: “I’m scared to go out in the world and make my mark, to show people who I am, because I do not feel significant”.
Maybe you had an older brother, and he was so smart. He was an A student, and you always felt inadequate, and now you are scared of competing with people because your brother was five years older, he could always do stuff you could not do. You could never catch up, so you do not like being in a competitive world, in case you fail.
AGAIN: THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN FAIL, IS IF YOU FAIL TO TRY!!!!
– Why my position in my family created a limiting belief?
– Why I am still holding onto a feeling that was relevant only until I was 16, 17, 18, and left home?
– Why am I still acting out a belief that made sense when I was 3,4,10 even 12, but hasn’t made sense for years, and will never make sense again?
– Why am I keeping that?
Find out what your position in your family is, and how it has influenced your limiting beliefs.
Self-Acceptance and Self-Love
There is a difference between self-acceptance and self-love. Loving yourself enough to accept who you are to make the very best of yourself, and not try to force yourself to be someone else.
When you fall in love with who you are, you allow the world to fall in love with you too.
Part of loving yourself is self-acceptance. Accept the good and not so good things about yourself and then change what you can. Also, accept what you cannot change, if you really cannot change it: this is the way to find inner peace.
Find your gift, and celebrate it!
You are enough! The LoveMoney mind-set starts by saying “I am enough”. You are enough precisely the way you are.
When you realize you are enough, you become more ambitious, also thanks to an acceptance of your real gifts, and a refusal of any desired gift that does not represent you, even if strongly desired in the past.
The realization of this mental condition will improve your life:
- I am enough, therefore, I deserve a fantastic relationship
- I am enough, therefore, I deserve a promotion
- I am enough, therefore, I deserve a pay rise
- I am enough, therefore, I can invest in a gym membership
- I am enough, therefore, I can head this team
- I am enough, therefore, I can buy better food
- I am enough, therefore, I can run this company
- I am enough, therefore, I accept all the great things about myself
You can never feel good about yourself if you are not in peace with yourself.
You can never be in harmony with yourself until when you are honest with yourself. If you are living a lie, you cannot be at peace. If you pretend being something you are not, you are not at peace, that will lead to a lack of self-esteem, that will result in you thinking not to be enough.
On the contrary, when you turn that around:
- I love who I am
- I love myself
- I make the very best of myself
- I accept myself
You become honest and real to yourself, aka you are in peace.
Finally, a constant repetition of a specific message to the brain will make such words true for the brain, as the brain would think the information to be true because it keeps coming back to the mind. For this reason, repeat to yourself: “I am enough” and/or “I always have been enough” and/or “I am always enough” and/or “I will be enough”, several and several times so that you teach your mind this attribute of yourself.
Complete these sentences with positive statements, as they will help you understand how enough you are:
- I am …
- I am ready …
- I am doing …
- I am saying abundant words.
- I can ….
- I will …
- I am thinking…
- I do ….
- I always…
Wealth Limiting Beliefs
As anticipated before, limiting beliefs go against the LoveMoney concept, especially if these limiting beliefs are directly related to money.
The most common limiting beliefs about money are:
- I don’t deserve it
- I have to work hard for the money
- The price I pay for wealth is too high
- Working for money makes you sick
- Pursuing money is bad
- Only bad people go after money
- When I get wealth, other people suffer
- There’s not enough to go around
- I am not skilled enough to get more money
We create our own limiting beliefs very early in life because we receive them from other people’s beliefs. For example, often, we see parents fighting about money, parents worrying or stressing about money, and we form a belief: “oh, money… that causes so many problems”. This is because you received other people’s opinions!!
You are born believing abundance is your birthright!!
Money is energy: when you feel good about it, you attract it, you return it, you give it, you receive it. But when you’re blocked, when you have blocked energy, you keep it away. You say no to it. And when you say no to it mentally, of course, you say no to it physically.
I personally do not have any limiting belief about money, but if you do, you might have thought things like: I cannot afford stuff because I do not have enough money.
If you do not have limiting beliefs about money, you create positive loops such as I can get money, I know how to make money, I can spend money, I can invest money, I can use the money, etc.
These exercises can help you overcome your financial limiting beliefs:
- Write down all your limiting beliefs about money. Write down your family’s and your culture’s beliefs about money.
- Say your beliefs out loud. Change the word “money” with the word “energy”.
- Change the word money with the word energy!!! 🙂
BECAUSE MONEY IS ENERGY!!! You give and receive!
Enhancing personal wealth
MIND WORKS IN A PRESENT TENSE
Our mind only understands the “now” as it works in the present tense, and it really likes words that are exciting. Therefore, phrases such as: “next year I will make it” means nothing to your mind.
“I am rich now. I am wealthy now. I am buying an amazing car now”, even if it’s not true, it will actually have an impact on your mind.
YOU FORM A BLUEPRINT WITH YOUR WORDS AND YOUR MIND DOES EVERYTHING TO MAKE THAT BLUEPRINT REALITY!
This is the reason why, when you say: “next year I will make it”, that does not create any blueprint in your mind!
TO MAKE A BLUEPRINT, YOU HAVE TO BE VERY CLEAR, VERY SPECIFIC AND IN THE PRESENT TENSE!
LIE, LIE, CHEAT FEAR and STEAL BACK the belief “I can have everything!” that you had when you were a baby 🙂
This is the recommendation to influence and create beneficial positive effects in your mind effectively.
Since we live in an abundant world if you say “I’m rich, I’m abundant, I’m wealthy”, you become it. Consider how abundant and lucky you are, especially if you compare yourself with your grandparent’s economic life they had at their time.
GIVE UP A POVERTY MENTALITY, GO INTO ABUNDANCE MENTALITY!
REMEMBER THAT IT WORKS IN THE PRESENT: “I AM A MILLIONAIRE!! NOW!!! AND I WILL BECOME A BILLIONAIRE!!”
IF YOU GIVE MONEY, YOU GET MONEY BACK, AS ABUNDANCE IS ABOUT GIVING AND RECEIVING!!
Think about it: when you breathe, you receive air, and then you give air back!
If you keep air for too long, it will start holding your chest, until when it is required from you to breathe out, otherwise you would feel a significant pain arising in your chest. In that exact moment, how good does it feel to breath out, to give!?!?
If we consider the opposite, we can understand that it is a problem too: if you just give out air, and you do not take it in, you will die in a matter of minutes.
This is, in my opinion, one of the best examples ever made to understand how life must be balanced, in every aspect, between taking and giving! Only a balanced give&take can ensure a good quality of life.
You must act in a way that is consistent with the way you define yourself!!
Now that you know that: NEVER DEFINE YOURSELF AS BROKE!!!
Now, using exciting words, write down new affirmations that will form your blueprint!
IMAGINATION IS MORE POWERFUL THAN LOGIC!!!
If your imagination says that you can do it, it will defeat any logic that says that you cannot.
We now all realized the potentials of LoveMoney. If you decide to understand these mechanisms and to act towards this new enlightening life direction, your life will transform.
THIS DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU HAVE TO GIVE MONEY TO EVERYONE, OR THAT YOU NEED TO BE OVER GENEROUS TO ANYONE.
You always need to analyze every situation, and whether or not it is good to give to a specific person/charity/company, or not.
Unfortunately, the world has negative people who live in adverse situations, that might not be worth your personal money, time and energy. On the other side, the world is full of amazing people and favorable situations, that are definitely worth your time, money, love and energy.
Always with some sense into yourself, help others, be abundant, give and take energy, and enjoy the LoveMoney mindset.
Do not allow selfishness, negative or limiting thoughts block you from becoming abundant, and especially, do not allow any negative experience stopping you from helping who would strongly benefit from your help, also because, this missed opportunity to help others, will result in a missed opportunity for you to get your given help back 😉
The best teacher I ever found on these subjects is the Therapist Marisa Peer, whose books helped me define, as well as discover, these important pieces of information to live life fully!
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